I don’t understand why NTs think that commenting about how you never talk or how quiet you are counts as a conversation starter. In my opinion, that counts as an insult.
Don’t do that.
"You’re being awfully quiet tonight."
*raises eyebrows and says nothing*
Yes, and it’s very frustrating. It’s a way some people trivialise and dismiss the struggles of disabled people by fitting our experiences into non-disabled frames of reference. The suggestions that autistics are being ‘dramatic’ and also that to be autistic your behaviour can’t be perceived as ‘normal’ are very damaging
I never know how to respond when people say that!
okay so there is a very specific reason why i am saying this but i think it needs to be said:
when people come out as a non-binary identity DO NOT try to tell them they are cis or faking it, bc a lot of times non-binary genders are a bit confusing and it may take some time and experimenting to find what fits the way you are and how you feel and a big concern with people who haven’t found the right identity yet is “am i really cis? but that doesn’t fit, but neither does this??” and then face a lot of self-doubt and fear about exploring their genders.
if someone is exploring non-binary identities, be supportive and if you are non-binary, talk about how you came to your gender and found the right terms and your experiences. be kind and supportive to new members of the community, don’t just accuse them of being a cis faker because they don’t know the terms or are unsure about aspects of their identity still. basically, don’t be a buttwipe, folks.
#this is especially important if the nb person has anxiety issues#*points to self* (via autismgender)
I can’t believe I just saw a cis person on Facebook (friend of friend, not one of my friends) learn the word cis and immediately proceed to argue that cis and trans are unnecessary words because “it doesn’t matter” and “we’re all people.”
I am literally shaking and my face and hands are going numb (yay panic symptoms). This is not happening. I unfollowed several tags on tumblr to avoid shit like this.
And the worst part is is that these people (usually pseudo-leftists) do this kind of thing to show that they’re ~supportive~ of your gender…and then proceed to aggressively misgender you.
“Do not play God and lecture me on what is normal. I was made in His image, not yours.”