things that need to stop:
- fights over whether it’s speaking or nonspeaking autistics who are terrible at understanding the world and respecting other people as real
things that need to happen:
- acknowledging that this is a destructive and untrue stereotype about *all* of us
no one is an aspie superdetective who can only do academics because they are too broken to people.
no one is a low functioning autistic too autistic to understand anything beyond their own hand, either.
Everyone learns. Everyone relates. Everyone communicates. And everyone has major gaps in their understanding of the world. All of us.
We should all be in this together.
Love sorrow. She is yours now, and you must
take care of what has been
given. Brush her hair, help her
into her little coat, hold her hand,
especially when crossing a street. For, think,
what if you should lose her? Then you would be
sorrow yourself; her drawn face, her sleeplessness
would be yours. Take care, touch
her forehead that she feel herself not so
utterly alone. And smile, that she does not
altogether forget the world before the lesson.
Have patience in abundance. And do not
ever lie or ever leave her even for a moment
by herself, which is to say, possibly, again,
abandoned. She is strange, mute, difficult,
sometimes unmanageable but, remember, she is a child.
And amazing things can happen. And you may see,
as the two of you go
walking together in the morning light, how
little by little she relaxes; she looks about her;
she begins to grow.”
― Mary Oliver, Red Bird
“That’s the problem with putting others first; you’ve taught them you come second.”
“i said to the sun, tell me about the big bang. the sun said, it hurts to become.”